Songs of the Heart

Heartache. Heartbreak. Heart-struck. The three phases of affection, emitting both the demand for warmth and genuine comfort. It’s a subject than one can determine but can never evade. It’s the thing called LOVE. Furthermore, love can be publicized through affectionate and melodious songs. Alleviating the twinge and throbbing that its desolation convey. Little miss ominous me, is waiting for the right man to spend the Valentines with and perhaps, David Pomeranz would be the perfect gentleman!

David Pomeranz will carry out a tremendous performance here in General Santos City at Lagao Gymnasium on The Day of Hearts. He is known for his renowned songs such as “Born for you,” “The King and Queen of Hearts” and the illustrious “Got to Believe in Magic,” among others. To actually heed and witness his echoing saintly voice would be an extremely majestic opportunity. This would be a craze that would transmit all the generals to the said event place. It is alleged to be in line for the approaching Kalilangan Festival where great deals of excitement and satisfaction are sprinkled around the populace. He is, no doubt, an angel, with a miraculous voice, sent from heaven to shower blissfulness among the Generals and the various individuals in diverse localities of the Nation.

The only problem is that, little miss me, is BROKE. A miracle transpired the minute I gazed at Sir Avel’s website where he posted about David’s forthcoming concert. His website is fundamentally GenSan’s Online Magazine where new insights and information about the city is being circulated online. He organized a contest for Southern Bloggers and the prize? Top five frontrunners are chosen and will have an opportunity to meet David Pomeranz personally and will each receive a superb 1000 worth of gift certificates at Grab-A-Crab and Club101. The mechanics are posted on Sir Avel’s website- www.gensantos.com.


The exquisiteness of the days one has existed is engraved on his heart. Surely, all and sundry has the chance to experience these excitingly unexpected phenomena’s incorporating this royal event with David Pomeranz.

New Lay-out

A big thanks for my daughter Lolli-pii (my Kawaii Life) who constructed my new lay-out. I begged her for almost three months because of her time being occupied by school activities and studies and she made it only last night.

Well, I love my new lay-out than before, it's not boring in my eyes, I hope my visitors would appreciate it too.

GENEE ON THE GO!!

I was amused when I received the invitation intended for my boss, the first grand opening of GENEE, located at Freedom Park, Pendatun Avenue of General Santos City.

After reading this invitation, I informed him the schedule of the Grand Opening of GENEE on January 26, 2009, to confirm if he is willing to attend in this event.

When my boss entered in the office, he immediately invites us to join with them for a lunch, we gave him a big grinned and accepted the invitation, a good timing for us because we already felt hungry.

I appreciate the place, a wholesome place for a date with your family and friends, cleaned and feel comfortable, awesome furnitures and friendly crews. They offered an affordable delicious..yummy...foods....such as; Tunaghetti, Tunaburger, Tunaball, ice cream halo-halo and any flavor of shakes for heavy snacks, and Inasal for meals and some different yummy meals.

I am fond of getting some photo’s about this place to share it with you guyz, you can only see this place here in General Santos City, Mindanao, Philippines.

Here are some photo’s that could attract your eyes….

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Lemonaide Award from Strawbery Anarchy

Wow!! thanks to Strawberryanarchy by including me as one of her top ten favorite blog and for the Lemonaide Award that I received from her. I appreciate her for being kind and friendly, I love visiting her site too.


I would like also to pass this award to my friends and to my favorite sites:

1. lainy
2. ally
3. mariuca
4. melinda
5. harley
6. daisy
7. healthnutwannabeemom

I hope the said award will accept by the above sites, and wish that this award could bring friendship to everyone here in blogs sphere. Once again, I want to give thanks to strawberryanarchy for the Lemonaide Award.

BaTtered Wife..BiTter Life...

I was been separated for almost five years and how far I am now? Since, I am trying to forget my past. I can’t even imagine how I survived in that kind of cruelty done by my ex-hubby who delivered me in a tremendous part of my life.

I was married in my early stage at my age nineteen, they said I am still a baby of which I need more things to learn, I though early marriage could change my life unto better life..but it’s irony, instead became a bitter life. I though love can learn, but its not, maybe because your partner did not gave any effort to respond of what you offer.

For almost nine years of marriage, I remember when I got pregnant for my first baby, it’s tearing me up, it just like bruised in my heart when I remember that my x-hubby never cared about my pregnancy. I never experience those what the husband who taking care of their wife if they are pregnant, as they are very careful for the needs of their wife, they offered love and affection with their wife and they are responsible by giving them medications and nutrition foods for their wife and for the baby in the womb.

I never though that early marriage is a disruption of my dreams and my goals of my life. I became the prisoners of my fear, I don’t even know how to fight my rights, I kept silence for I am afraid that some of my friends and my family would knew the real things happened with me. Keeping this thing is made me crazy and fool…because I am afraid that they will not believe me and no one will understand me. My x-hubby is a witty persons, He really knows how to target my weaknesses and these are the things affected my being…

* Emotionally distress, I can’t fight my emotions, even to control it, I am always crying and crying, no one who can understand my feelings, no one who eager to listen what I felt before, this is the worse thing that I never forget, It was so sad that I have nothing when I married my x-hubby, I am poor, what I have is my physical attraction. He did not listen what I felt, I never forget when I cried like a baby sitting down in the highway and lying there just to let him show that he hurt me. But he ignored it, he never listened what I felt, instead he shouted and telling me to stop crying. I am a dumb…yes..because I don’t even know how to fight my right…that’s what my problem before, I can’t even know how to voice out what inside my heart and my mind but instead I do crying.

* Physically and mentally abused, he stroke me physically, all of the sudden he gave me the two moon in my two eyes, while doing that one, he accused me that I have another man, and he wanted me to tell if his mind is correct, which is that time he was high from drugs. I am mentally abused in the sense that he wanted to hear from me that his mind is correct, he gave me choices…and chances….I can’t forget the iron which he is ready to bump in my head while kneeling in his legs, as he told me…I will kill you, I will kill our daughter and your family and I will commit suicide if you will not tell me the truth. Those words….made me trouble…but I kept praying that time…asked God what to do because I don’t know how to fight against him. The only thing in my mind is..I need my life, I need to escaped in this kind of dilemma..so I decided to tell him..ok..if that’s what you want….I will tell you that your correct..I have a man…although my mind and my heart are against from what I confessed, after that, he stopped and he let me gone to slept and he said..ok..tomorrow is our new day we will start our new life.

S$xually abused – I suffered a lot from him, he made things that against in my mind, but I have no choice instead I followed what he wanted to do, this is the worse things that he made in my life, I am just like a pig that he can do what he wants, I have no right but became submissive of what he wanted, too bad…very bad…..

Long suffering – When I decided to leave from our house while he is still sleeping, I left my daughter in his side, but before I left the house, I prayed to our God protection for my daughter and guidance for me, and I trusted everything with Him. I went far away from my daughter although it was too painful as a mother leaving her daughter, but, I have a reason…better to leave with life, than to die, Leaving is worthy and I am correct, although I suffered a lot that time, I gave myself to think and decide for my life and for my daughter, after one month, I tried to contact my x-hubby and we have big fight through phone, as I heard that when I leave from our house, He brought his woman and the newborn baby they have. It’s too painful to hear, that’s the time I questioned God…why I experience this kind of life, which is not worth for me. Why I need to suffered like this I never remember that I did harm someone else. A lot of questions but then God gave me patience in my heart until I slowly understand what He wants me to know.

God gave me only eight months then He answered all my prayers. I realized that God never leave me, He never forsaken me, He is there when the time I decided to leave, He is there when I am in sorrow, He is my refuge and my strength and now He made my life and my daughter's life wonderful.

Lord, thank your so much for my past, you let me know how great full you are, you handled my life with care, you did not leave me alone, you gave me hope and now, I and my daughter living together with peace and harmony, thank you so much Lord for covering us with your love, for all the blessings you shower, Lord Thank you because you never forsake us. AMEN.

HAPPY BIRTHDAY MR. BARILES!!

My friend Ellaine is the one who informed me yesterday that our very own Mr. Bariles celebrating his Birthday.

I would like to extend my thanks to Sir Avel, for his being friendly, approachable and down to earth person, I appreciate this man as He didn't choose his friends, he welcomed new friends like me though I am an ordinary person. I am glad that I and my daughter become a blogger and we had an opportunity to attend in the 2^nd Mindanao Blogger Summit in October 2009 as he is the one who facilitated this events.

Sir AVEL once again happy birthday!!!

LET IT GO!

This message was forwarded to me by my friend and I want to share it to you.

Brethren, worth reading for reflection, God Bless.

Let it go for 2008.
By T. D. Jakes

there are people who can walk away from you.
And hear me when I tell you this! When people
can walk away from you, let them walk. I don't
want you to try to talk another person into staying
with you, loving you, calling you, caring about
you, coming to see you, staying attached to you.
I mean hang up the phone.

When people can walk away from you let them
walk. Your destiny is never tied to anybody that
left.

The bible said that,

"they came out from us that it
might be made manifest that they were not for us.
For had they been of us, no doubt they would
have continued with us." [1 John 2:19]

People leave you because they are not joined to
you. And if they are not joined to you, you can't
make them stay.

Let them go.

And it doesn't mean that they are a bad person it
just means that their part in the story is over And
you've got to know when people's part in your
story is over so that you don't keep trying to raise
the dead. You've got to know when it's dead.

You've got to know when it's over. Let me tell
you something. I've got the gift of good-bye. It's
the tenth spiritual gift, I believe in good-bye. It's
not that I'm hateful, it's that I'm faithful, and I
know whatever God means for me to have He'll
give it to me. And if it takes too much sweat I
don't need it. Stop begging people to stay.

Let them go!!

If you are holding on to something that doesn't
belong to you and was never intended for your life,
then you need to......

LET IT GO!!!

If you are holding on to past hurts and pains ......

LET IT GO!!!

If someone can't treat you right, love you back,
and see your worth.....

LET IT GO!!!

If someone has angered you ........

LET IT GO!!!

If you are holding on to some thoughts of evil
and revenge......

LET IT GO!!!

If you are involved in a wrong relationship or
addiction.....

LET IT GO!!!

If you are holding on to a job that no longer meets
your needs or talents

LET IT GO!!!

If you have a bad attitude.......

LET IT GO!!!

If you keep judging others to make yourself feel
better......

LET IT GO!!!

If you're stuck in the past and God is trying to take
you to a new level in Him......

LET IT GO!!!

If you are struggling with the healing of a broken
relationship.......

LET IT GO!!!

If you keep trying to help someone who won't
even try to help themselves.....

LET IT GO!!!

If you're feeling depressed and stressed .........

LET IT GO!!!

If there is a particular situation that you are so
used to handling yourself and God is saying "take
your hands off of it," then you need to......

LET IT GO!!!

Let the past be the past. Forget the former things.
GOD is doing a new thing for 2008!!!

LET IT GO!!!

Get Right or Get Left .. think about it, and then .

LET IT GO!!!

God Said NO!

I asked God to take away my habit. God said, No.

It is not for me to take away, but for you to give it up.

I asked God to make my handicapped child whole. God said, No.

His spirit is whole, his body is only temporary.

I asked God to grant me patience. God said, No.

Patience is a byproduct of tribulations; it isn't granted, it is learned.

I asked God to give me happiness. God said, No.

I give you blessings; Happiness is up to you.

I asked God to spare me pain. God said, No.

Suffering draws you apart from worldly cares and brings you closer to me.

I asked God to make my spirit grow. God said, No.

You must grow on your own, but I will prune you to make you fruitful.

I asked God for all things that I might enjoy life. God said, No.

I will give you life, so that you may enjoy all things.

I asked God to help me LOVE others, as much as He loves me.

God said...Ahhhh, finally you have the idea.

God loves you

John 3:16 For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life

seven time-tested fatal flaws of faulty mate selection

I want to thanks this very especial person who sent this great love letter, he wants me to educate through this topic he sent, and this topic helps me to know the significance in choosing someone for a better relationship between two person who are seriously committed with each other, I need to train myself and be ready for the situation what LOVE could bring unto me in my future.

Here are the seven time-tested fatal flaws of faulty mate selection to keep in mind while you search for that one special person:

1. Too Fast! Slow Down!
Marriage should be a serious decision that takes many aspects into consideration. In fact, some experts recommend that a couple dates for at least two years to make sure that they are making the correct choice. Two years may seem like a long time, but sometimes romantic feelings can cloud personal judgment, blinding you to admitting any incompatibilities that you may see but choose not to. Not only that, but not all incompatibilities are revealed in the first year. By the second year, however, any serious incongruities will emerge.

2. Too Young
The divorce rate for those 20 years old or younger is a whopping 85%—that means only 15% of all marriages between couples who are 20 years old or younger will survive. One key reason why these marriages dissolve is that a strong concept of self-identity needs to develop in someone before being matched well with someone with whom they can spend the rest of their lives.

3. Too Eager
When a person’s self-identity is not yet as developed as it could be, he or she may believe that marriage will make them whole and emotionally secure. Once married, however, they may find that their personal problems are still there, leading to disillusionment and sadness. In some extreme cases, someone in this situation may even project anger and resentment onto their spouse because their spouse hasn’t made them whole. Other times, a person’s concept of self-identity has been through substantial changes from the ending of a relationship or a series of relationships. Divorcees and those who have recently lost a partner are especially vulnerable to being over-eager to get married because they can feel so emotionally bad about themselves, and in general, that they feel the pain they are experiencing will magically go away once married. This notion is the farthest from the truth. Taking self-improvement steps to rebuild emotional health is necessary before partnering with another.

4. Too Little Time Spent Together
Getting to know your potential partner in as many different social environments and situations as possible before marriage is one key to future marital success. You’ll be able to see how your partner reacts to situations that may not come up in everyday life, and more importantly, how you face those situations together.

5. Marrying to Please Someone Else
Marrying someone to please your mother, father—or even your partner—is usually a sure-fire recipe for marital disaster. If you’re not ready for the level of commitment marriage requires, give yourself more time. Entering into a marriage prematurely can result in both partners having different levels of passion for the marriage itself. In a healthy relationship, however, that level of passion is similar; both people should be excited and enthusiastic about taking the big step.

6. Underestimating a Problem
Hopes, good intentions and promises are most likely not going to solve major personality or character flaws in a person’s behavior, and neither will marriage. Though these negative traits, such as alcohol, food issues, depression or anxiety may not be consistently present, they will come up over and over again in your relationship. You have to ask yourself honestly whether you are willing to tolerate these problems throughout the rest of your life. Additionally, if children are part of the picture, you must consider the impact this problem will have on them as well. While there may be a few character traits and qualities you recognize are compatible with you that you seek in people, the sum total of all traits and qualities is what’s important. You should never have to settle for the best person available to you right now because he or she seems to be the only person around right now. If you know in your heart that someone is incompatible with you, do yourself a favor and end the relationship. There are other people who will come into your life if you’re proactively looking for them.

7. False Expectations
Being able to spend your life with someone in good times and bad is a very appealing prospect. However, false expectations about what a marriage is supposed to be like lead to 20% of all first marriages ending by the fifth year. It’s important to remember that all marriages—even the healthiest ones—have their own unique challenges. Be realistic and acknowledge that there will be some difficulties that will come up. Additionally, it’s important to manage your own expectations as well as your assumptions about your partner’s expectations—don’t always assume that your partner has the same expectations that you do. If in doubt, ask! Good communication is the cornerstone of any successful relationship.

How my 2008 affected my life..

Our past is the method to visage the existence of our present, as a respondent to the life that the frenzied world offered, I delighted to become more open in every aspects brought to me by my experience in different circumstances.

Although, I experience some unfortunate things that could destroyed my self-esteem and my self-confidence because of those people around me, I can still deal with them in a optimistic manner, I became friendly with them and showed them good things so that they can realized their mistakes.

I need to be responsive in every aspects of my life of which how this unusual sort of places and choices brought about in my life from my past to my present;

My work place… sometimes it was normal around this place to experience some arguments that could create trouble between you and your co-workers. It was normal too, that some of your co-officemate have an antipathy feeling with you, maybe, because of their insecurities that sometimes you could felt helpless because you thought you’re alone and no one would understand you. And it is normal too, that you committed mistakes from your work, as you believe that from our mistakes we learned.

My Family…they are my foundation, they indulge their love and affection with me, through this they helped me to value things around me, they are my helping hand every time I failed. Because of them, I need to fight things that can makes me desperate so that I can also return those love and affection they shared with me. My family is my happiness.

My Friends…. Because of them I learned to know myself, although sometimes they don’t want to listened to you, they still extends their hand for a helped. Their heart and hands are ready every time I am in distress.

My so called MAN but it’s not…I spent too much time chatted with him everyday for almost a year, it says “were doing simply closed for nothing”, a reason why I ended it up the chatting portion with him that caused me a guilty feeling (only that time “thanks to uncle Che who advised me and make me understand the real thing), but the reason behind is, I need to know what is best for me and I wanted him to start his life looking for someone fated for him, therefore, It is hard to invest love in this kind of world. LOVE from someone which is one that I long for in my whole life, but in this part I am unfortunate to find someone special for me, I know God have best plan for me, as He really knows the desire of my heart.

My daughter and my adopted son….my daughter (kawaii life) is my inspiration in my life, she is the reason why I am still alive in this world, she’s the one who decorated my life, she is sweet and loving daughter, thoughtful and talented, she is in the process of spiritual maturity, and she deserve for my love and affection, because of her, I forgot my own happiness which is I know she needs me more than my happiness. My adopted son, yes, he is now the angel of the family…he shares laughter with us, He is two months old when his sixteen years old mother gave to me and now he is already one year old and five months.

My GOD…He is my Almighty father, my best friend; by His graces we saved. Only our God can offer us a perfect LOVE. He takes care of me, He comforts me through the Holy Spirit and He guide my way, In every prayer, He answered, He is my rock and my refuge, He is my helper and my strength, without Him, I am nothing. I trust everything to GOD.

The whole year of 2008 challenge my life. Through this, it helps me to build a strong foundation of my being, whatever ghastly things and good things they embarked with me, it is a sort of salt in my life. It is hard to value things around without experiencing these different circumstances, so,while walking in the midst of the bridge, hoping in that middle of bridge, I could still reach the end of it and begins my new life.

The Only One..

Every one of us dreamed to have someone to love and be love in return, love has a different meaning for each of us; defend if how it affects our life. Love is a complicated issue that we need to take care, Love is the most thing that could affect our whole being, our heart and our mind, our body and our soul.

Our heart and our mind work together, what the heart feel, the mind work, it will weaken our body and soul, if we are in-love, this is the most affected part of my life, especially if I am in-love to someone. Why? Because love is the greatest part in our lives that could change everything on us, can change our future plan, can set aside important things and accept what love will bring on us, although we are afraid for the outcome, we need to go on, because we can’t tell our heart…STOP…but instead, every heartbeat of our heart remind us, that we need to open our heart for a new and challenging part of our life…TO LOVE and BE LOVE…

But, how we can work these feelings if there is some conflict of this kind of situation? The situation that brings me some difficulties how to handle it, sometimes, it gives me positive and negative intuition,
….. if we love someone whatever the hindrance we encounter, we need his understanding, we need his patience, we need to help each other in order to fight whatever involved of this situation will express. In every situation there is a reason, a reason to fear, doubt, confuse but this things are the entrance of our choices, that someday in return, no feelings of regret, because you try your best to make the situation better.

If he is the will of God for you, whatever circumstances will bring of this kind of relationship God is there to help and remind that everything will be fine He will guide our heart to a right person to love, in a right place and in a right time. He will not forsake the desire of our heart.

I believe that God has a reason for everything, He knows what the best for us, the only thing that I pray that, God will guide my heart, and someday, somehow, He will fulfill these feelings that I felt to the person he reserved for me. A very especial person that I need to take care, I hope and pray that in everything would prosper us, and lead us in a right path for a right time.